Sex Education: The Sexual Energy

Hello, we are in our third week talking about Sex Education, and so far we talked about topics such as “Your sex is yours” and “female and male psychoerotism”. This Sex Friday, I have chosen the book The Multiorgasmic Woman, by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams, for several reasons. First, I chose it because my final thesis is directed towards how to awaken and cultivate the “chi” energy and the sexual energy “jing chi” to obtain more satisfaction, desire and pleasure in the personal and sexual sphere. Another reason to study this book is my personal interest with regard to the pleasure in women and, on the other hand, on a professional level so that I may better offer help and tools to women so they may deal with their frustration and suffering in their sexual experiences. In addition, this was my choice due to my interest in investigating the concept of being multi-orgasmic, both in women and men, through the approach presented by the two authors. In this sense, there is also the work ‘The multi-orgasmic Men‘ by the same author that also appeals to me.

The Multi- Orgasmic Woman

Autor: Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams
Editorial: Neoperson 

Mantak Chia, considered a master within the branch of Taoism, has published many books on Taoist sexuality in which he offers us a millenary oriental approach. It cultivates the energy “chi” and the sexual energy “jing chi” to awaken not only our sexual desires or find sexual satisfaction with oneself or with one’s partner, but also to achieve a much healthier and fuller life on all levels, from the physical to the emotional as well as the spiritual. Co-author Rachel Carlton Abrams is a specialist in women’s medicine, health and sexuality and practices in the United States. Both authors unify Eastern sexual knowledge of Taoism with the Western sexual health model. In this book they teach women to know their bodies, their desires, their pleasures and how to become a multi-orgasmic woman. The book begins with a questionnaire that allows you to bring certain topics to light, for example:

how do you live your own sexuality, how is your physical and emotional health, what is your sexual past, what is your attitude as a couple, how do you relate to your body and to the activities that increase or reduce your energy, and so on.

At the end of each questionnaire there are some comments that establish some basic information so that the reader can orient himself and feel supported throughout the exercise to know his own body and sexual sensations or with the partner. The results of this test can show us different unresolved issues and how to work on them. A common pattern observed is the lack of time for intimate moments within the scope of the couple.

24 exercises on how to channel sexual energy to enrich and nourish your body.

Another important feature that the book offers are the “24 exercises throughout the book, on how to channel sexual energy to enrich and nourish your body. In these exercises we find laughs, breaths, sounds, meditations, visualizations, massages, relaxation and muscular contractions to reach a greater corporal and sexual sensitization. It is not necessary to practice all those mentioned in the book but some of them are powerful and with practice will increase a whole series of positive qualities and new sensations. For example, a greater imagination and fantasy, more vitality, more sexual desire, a general well-being, greater contact with oneself, a deep body self-sensitivity and, in addition, the possibility of being a multi-orgasmic woman. From my point of view, these exercises can move emotions hidden in the psyche of the human being. In this case, it might be necessary to go to a health professional who knows these practices well, both the scope of application and its consequences. Many of these exercises are also known in the yogic tradition in India. For example, the contraction of the PC muscle or “Kegel” has been a yoga practice for many years. Many centuries in order to control and expand sexual energy into the globality of the world, and at the same time strengthen the pelvic floor. Also, different meditations or breathing techniques that appear in this book are known and practiced for thousands of years in India. It is interesting to observe the parallelism of these sexual approaches between India and China. Taoism uses sexual energy to have a more satisfying and healthy sexual life. In contrast, in India, in some branches of its philosophy, sexual energy is directed toward spirituality through sexual abstinence.

Taoists know that sexual energy is a powerful source that builds our personality.

It is responsible for our health, longevity and lifestyle, as sexuality and personality are deeply intertwined. The emphasis is on preserving sexual health and using it for balanced emotional and spiritual growth. In this book, the authors emphasize that in each person is the seed of desire, that is, the source of libido, and that each one has the capacity to recover that seed. For this, what is necessary is to learn to open, relax, let go, take care and feel the body, breathe rhythmically and do the exercises offered by this book. With practice and perseverance you can awaken this seed and even become a multi-orgasmic woman , and no matter the age, also women during or after menopause can enjoy a lot of sexual energy naturally or applying the exercises. However, in the book appears the idea that the orgasm is not the final objective of sex, but only one of the stages of sexual practice. Throughout these practices, there is a whole series of bodily responses during the different moments of sexual rapprochement and, thanks to their discovery and awareness of oneself, one learns to enjoy each act in both intimate and general life. Although there are no studies describing the relationship between Taoist sexual practices and hormonal responses, the experience of multiple instructors of the Universal Tao who have applied these techniques over a long period, confirm higher levels of well-being, more sexual appetite, greater affection …, which are undoubtedly the same sensations that secrete certain hormones such as endorphin, estrogens, testosterone and oxytocin.

 Female Sexual Dysfunction

The book also emphasizes the factors that diminish health or health. Sexual satisfaction throughout life. To name a few, which can inhibit sexual desires and excitement, are for example those related to physical or emotional health (anxiety, depression, anxiety, menopause, some chronic diseases or vaginal infections, the effect of antidepressant drugs or hormonal treatments …) and also those related to external circumstances (such as exhaustion, excessive work, economic stress, too many family responsibilities, addictions …). In this sense, the Taoists and in particular these two authors describe these factors as the lack of an appropriate energetic circulation and/or an interrelation with an emotional disturbance in the person’s psyche.

In general, there are many people who do not feel their sexual energy, nor their energy in general.

They are so focused on the mind, along with the factors and impediments that we have discussed above, that they do not open spaces for bodily sensitization throughout their lives. The question would be how to reach these people so that they have an experience of this vitality and energy, how to help them enjoy a greater connection with themselves and how to free themselves from these emotional burdens. Of course, the first step would be to start taking care of yourself and listening to yourself more. Another point that is extremely important, is to improve communication within of the couple. This book puts the emphasis on sharing what stimulates everyone and what they like. In other words, to teach the other their erogenous zones, guiding them and communicating through touch their desires and needs. There is a wide range of ways to touch the other: from small touches to stronger friction. The authors also invite us to practice and explore new postures to enjoy greater stimulation and communication in the sexual encounter. It even offers the possibility of applying some of the exercises proposed in this book to increase pleasure and excitement during intimate contact. However, the important thing is to maintain a relaxed attitude that allows us to enjoy sexuality more fully.

How to become a multi-orgasmic woman ?

In short, it is a book that I recommend reading for both women and men. To begin with, each man, including myself, should know better the rhythm of the woman, for example the cycle of her menstruation and, through this knowledge, give her time and space. In the same sense, the book invites men to practice with their partners some of these exercises to enjoy and achieve greater pleasure and sexual desire together. Undoubtedly, this act would increase communication within the couple. And of course, I would also recommend this book to all women to experience for themselves how to become a multi-orgasmic woman through the practices offered by the exercises. At first, the practices require time to understand and feel them in the body. With perseverance, however, you are given time to understand and feel them in your body. However, with perseverance these sensations of tingling or vibration are awakened during exercises or even during sexual intercourse and the results are surprising: more pleasure, more desire, more joy and intimacy with oneself and with one’s partner. From this same experience I can understand the multi-orgasmic state in both women and men. When we men put aside ejaculation and focus on the overall pleasure of the body, the climax can last a long time, almost hours, and the whole body receives waves of pleasure or energy that lead to states of ecstasy and joy of much depth, both having a fuller and healthier sexuality. Good practice to all…